Confessions of a Middle-Aged Short Guy With No Game
An Average Joe's Observations from the Deep End of the
Dating Pool
Dating in 2018 is difficult for many singles, but if you’re a short, average looking middle-aged guy with no real game, it’s even harder to get the attention of single women.
The average Joe is considered to be vanilla, or bland, and doesn’t stand out in a crowd. He doesn’t have any outwardly discerning high-value qualities, and that makes it difficult for him to thrive in a competitive dating world; one where his opportunities are sometimes limited.
It’s difficult for average guys to figure out why they aren’t having the success they desire, but when taking that hard look in the mirror, they can’t help give more than a passing thought to what they have always suspected to be the truth:
“It has to be me.”
If you’ve ever heard a woman say:
“I’m sorry but I don’t date anyone shorter than me.”
“I need a really strong guy. I mean, you’re not jerk and all, and that’s a good thing, but…”
“You aren’t the type of guy I’d normally go out with.”
“You’re such a nice guy but I think we’d be better as friends.”
then this is a must read.
As men, we are not expected to feel or show emotion, especially when it comes to dating and handling rejection. But deep inside, we worry just as much as women about how we are perceived. After repeated rejections, our emotions overwhelm us. We feel upset, hurt, frustrated, dejected, helpless, and have many times asked ourselves silently, “Is it really me?”
It most certainly is.
But there is hope.
In this book, Vince Guaglione authentically shares his less-than-optimal, real-world dating experiences as a short, average-looking guy with no real game, goes on a fact-finding mission to learn what qualities truly matter to single women, and investigates both the social aspects of the singles world and the dynamics between the sexes, in an effort to learn what they reveal about dating as a whole.
It’s a book that empathizes with the plight of the average Joe. It lends an ear, provides support, offers encouragement, and dispenses concrete advice. But most of all, it gives this problem context for guys who have always suspected that their height, looks, and lack of game, has negatively impacted their dating lives.
Written primarily for the average Joe who struggles to attract dates, it also is relevant for those who are interested in understanding the real issues faced by these guys while navigating the sometimes turbulent and unchartered waters of the dating pool.
Books
My books are now available on a number of online platforms including Amazon, iBooks, Barnes&Noble, Kobo, Scribd, Tolino, Inktera, and others. For links to my author page on all of these sites, please check out my Bio page.
All seven previous Narratives works are now available in one boxed set in eBook format. If you are looking for all of these works in one place, look no further. You'll get the entire series at a discount; only $3.99!
Interviews
11/22/2019 - The 20 Minute Podcast with David Brower
Was thrilled to be a guest on David Brower's 20 Minute Podcast show. In this interview, I share my story of personal loss, how I navigated the grieving process, how I transformed my life following the tragedy, and the role I now play in aiding those who struggle with similar issues. David asked so many great questions it's a shame we only had 20 minutes to work with. He's an awesome interviewer and a wonderful host. This is a very cool podcast show so I'd encourage you to give him a listen.
1/14/2019 - The Suddenly Single Show with Danielle Watson
This is an interview I did for The Suddenly Single Show, discussing how I coped with grief after the loss of my significant other in early 2012. In this interview, I share my story and talk about the coping strategies I used, including journal writing, that helped aid in my recovery, This was a fabulous discussion with a lot of great questions, so I'd encourage you to give it a listen.
12/04/2018 - The Healthy Entrepreneur on 88.1 Radio with Tiffany Parker
This is an interview I did for The Heathy Entrepreneur show with Tiffany Parker. In it, I discuss my journey through personal loss towards a transformational life of inner peace. The show was broadcast on 88.1 FM radio on 12/3/2018, and is now available for streaming via SoundCloud. How you will give it a listen! The episode number is 148.
10/24/2018 - The Date/able Podcast
This is an interview I did for the Date/able show with hosts Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu. I discuss what it's really like being a short, average Joe in the dating world and also talk about societal pressures with respect to looks, how to make the most with what you've got, and how being an average Joe doesn't mean settling for being an average Joe when it comes to your dating life. Give this one a listen! The episode number is 15, season 7.
10/17/2018 - Clearing The Clutter Inside and Out
This is an interview I did for the Clearing The Clutter Inside and Out podcast. It this one, I discuss with show host Julie Coraccio what it takes to be a good partner and the importance of authenticity and honoring your emotions with respect to forming and maintaining healthy intimate relationships. The episode number is 263.
08/07/2018 - The Disruptive Love Podcast
This is the first interview I did to discuss my new book and to discuss what it's really like to date as a short, average Joe in 2018. It was great chatting with Johnathan and David Bennett and I certainly appreciated them having me on the show to talk dating as a short, average Joe!
04/17/2018 - Awakening To Life with Patricia Young
The interview I did for the Awakening To Life podcast is now live and available for streaming. The interview is 30 minutes long and in it, I share my experience coping with loss, and some of the strategies I used to help pull myself out of the quicksand, and continue living, and thriving in life. When it comes down to it, we only have two choices - either sink, or swim. In this podcast, I share how I made the choice to swim, the struggles I faced along the way, and the things I learned throughout the process. This was an amazing interview with an amazing transformational coach, and I was thrilled to be a guest!
03/27/2018 - The Segilola Salami Show
The interview I did for the Segilola Salami show is live and available for streaming. This interview is a 40 minute talk with fellow author, and book blogger Segilola Salami. The discussion focuses on how I coped with losing a loved one, the struggles I faced along the way, and the things I learned throughout the process.